One of the greatest tools in life is the ability to learn from our our mistakes and the mistakes of others. They don’t have to be huge mistakes either, it can be something as simple as learning that cooking pasta for 20 minutes is not a good idea or that eating nothing but cream crackers will not make you big and strong.

One of the things I wanted to create with this site was a place where I could share what I’ve learnt, so here are three mistakes I make, some more often than others. They’re all centred around a lack of focus, which can be a real productivity killer.

1) Ignoring plans I make

Planning isn’t one of my favourite activities, but I find that once I’ve started to create a plan it’s not too difficult to finish it all. Plans can take anywhere from 20 minutes to several hours to create, and the level of detail depends on the task being planned. The real problem isn’t in creating the plan, but in sticking to it.

Once the initial enthusiasm has waned, it becomes very difficult to stick to any kind of schedule. More interesting tasks appear all the time, unexpected events occur that throw off schedules and there are days when you just don’t want to see a particular project.

So far the best solutions I’ve found to this problem has been the following:

1. Make the plan as simple as possible - This goes against my natural urge to plan for everything and to make things as detailed as possible. Instead, I find a more agile approach works best. This starts by making one very general plan, and making smaller ones as each large milestone is completed. See Extreme Achievement for more information on this.
2. Put the plan somewhere visible - It gets very hard to ignore a plan when it’s constantly in your face. It might feel a bit silly writing out your plan on a huge sheet of paper and sticking it to your ceiling, but it does have an affect!
3. Make your plans small - No matter what you plan for, something will appear and mess it up. The smaller (and simpler) your plans, the easier it is to cope with these interruptions. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t set big goals, but rather you should aim to get there in lots of little steps rather than a few giant strides.

Planning takes work, but if done well it can save hours of time and a lot of frustration. Learn what your limits are and set yourself reasonable targets to avoid any problems.

2) Ignoring priorities

This is related to the first point, and in some ways it’s probably the biggest mistake that anybody can make when it comes to productivity. It’s an unfortunate fact that there will never, ever be enough hours in the day to complete everything. This is where priorities come in, and when they’re followed they can make a huge difference.

The hard part is accepting that in order to do something, you will have to not do something else. Once you understand and accept this, it makes it a little simpler to prioritise your actions. To further encourage sticking to priorities, any rewards should be given for tasks that were marked as “high priority”.

3) Ignoring the clock

After a certain amount of work, your productivity will take a steep decline. This is nature’s way of telling you to stop and do something else. Once of the worst habits I picked up at university was working until 5 or 6am in the morning, getting a few hours sleep and then working through the day again. Although I got my work finished, the quality suffered as I made more mistakes and felt far more frustrated.

I’ve found the root cause of this problem is not trusting myself to resume work the next day. Although I know I’ll be more effective in the morning, I’ve had too many days of slacking until the afternoon that put me off this approach. It often seems like working through the night is the only way I’ll get something completed.

I found the best way to beat this problem is to wake up an hour earlier and dive straight into whatever task I set the night before. Even if I don’t get a huge amount done in this first hour, it sets up a more productive mood for the rest of the day.

Bonus - Not ignoring other people’s standards

It seems every list needs a bonus item at the end, so here’s one thing that I don’t ignore that would probably be a good idea. Everybody has different standards, and it’s often hard enough meeting your own, let alone somebody else’s. 

Don’t get too hung up on trying to be somebody else. Improve yourself in your own way, and you’ll be far more satisfied than you ever could be by living someone else’s life.

Back in October of 2006 I wrote a review of “The Secret”, and the film has gone on to become a worldwide success. Several of the contributors have been interviewed on high profile US shows, such as Oprah and Letterman, and the DVD is cropping up in “regular” stores.

With this increase in interest, now is a good time to take a second look at The Secret. What is it all about, why has it become so popular and how can it be applied to your life?

What is “The Secret”?

The Secret is the idea that “thoughts become things”. It might seem like common knowledge that we must think about things before we create them, but The Secret takes that one step further. One of the key ideas in the film is the “Law of Attraction”, which states that like attracts like. For example, thinking about positive things will attract positive events into your live. 

The “Law of Attraction” itself has been around for much longer than the current hype of “cosmic ordering”. The film mentions it has been used by many famous thinkers high achievers, and that it has also appeared in biblical stories.

The law of attraction is also known as the “intention manifestation” model. This model of thinking states that thinking about something (putting out an intention) will cause what you’re thinking about to manifest in your life.

Even if all of this sounds a little far fetched, I still recommend checking out the film because it contains some great tips on setting and achieving goals. It also has an extremely positive attitude, and you can’t help but become more enthusiastic about your goals after watching it.

Why has it become so popular?

There’s been a huge online buzz behind the film, and word of mouth has really helped to spread the message. Several high-profile personal development bloggers have also spoken about the film, particularly Steve Pavlina and his wife Erin. Along with the online buzz, several of the film’s main contributors have also appeared on some high-profile TV shows.

Marketing aside, what is it about the film that has made it resonate so strongly with its audience?

The film itself is well presented but has a very “genuine” feel to it. It contains a good dose of humour, and all of the speakers seem very warm and natural. There’s no blatant self-promotion that can sometimes creep into personal development material.

Of course, the main feature of the film is that it makes some very large promises.

Promising that applying a single principle can make anything certainly gives the film something to live up to. Possibly the only message more popular than “get rich quick” is “get everything you want easily”.

Despite the fact that the intention/manifestation model sounds like an easy way of getting anything you want, putting it into practice can be difficult at first.

At the simplest level it’s just a case of thinking about what you want. However, there are a few subtle additions that are quite important. It requires a constant effort and a sense of clarity in order to be successful. Despite the film framing these practices as a “secret”, they’re fundamental to any form of achievement, regardless of the beliefs behind it.   

Applying The Secret

How do you apply the Law of Attraction to your everyday life?

Create your picture of clarity — Before you can start, you need to have a clear vision of where you want to be. Like any goal, you must be specific and write it down!

Visualise your success — Visualise your goal as already achieved. Spend some time to make the visualisation powerful, and visit the scene every day. It’s even better if you can combine the vision with emotions from a previous victory. Strong, positive emotions make a visualisation much more powerful.

Constantly review your “intentions” – This is one of the most important parts of goal achievement - you must constantly review your goals if you are to achieve them. You should aim to read through your goals at least once a day. The more often you check your goals, the more deeply rooted into your routine they become.

Does any of this work?

Does setting clear goals and constantly visualising the results help you to achieve what you want? Absolutely! Is it because your thoughts vibrate with the universe and it delivers what you desire? That’s up to you to decide.

Whether you think it’s an amazing secret or a load of mumbo-jumbo, I recommend taking a 30 day trial of the techniques to see if it works for you. Approach it with it with an open mind, more importantly don’t let it put you off using visualisation in your goal setting.